“Meet the Therapist” with Deborah Feinsilver
How would you define counseling?
REVEAL: Get to the core of what is problematic or causing the problem/s.
RELEASE: Forgive others or forgive self in order to move forward.
REPAIR or RECONSTRUCT: Replace behaviors that are not working with those that better serve.
What motivates people to come into counseling?
RECOGNITION that life shouldn’t be so difficult or that there must be something else.
Can you tell us about how your journalism background influences counseling?
I want to explore the story, and the stories behind the story.
How did you transition into counseling?
Quite simply I did a RE-WRITE or edit of my own life. As I matured and experienced my three children maturing I knew there was a better way to use what I had learned.
Do you have a favorite quote and why?
This is one I often discuss with clients. I don’t know where I found it, and I don’t know the author, but I think it speaks to all of us . . .
Courage doesn’t always roar . . . Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day That says . . . I’ll try again tomorrow.
What are some lessons you’ve learned from the people you’ve counseled over the last 21 years?
Ahh . . . people are infinitely resilient. And have so much courage. Maybe that’s why I love that quote.
What can we find you doing in your free time?
I like to be with my family and friends. But also fee that my creativity can be my best friend, too.